One of the most annoying, but also defining traits of my mind is the ability to picture scenes in such detail that is so frustrating that I want to record it. This is what happened while listening to the new Odesza album. This album releases so many emotions as it is a blend of beautiful instrumental tracks, uplifting vocals, and everything in between. Especially while listening to “Thin Floors and Tall Ceilings”.
I spent approximately 45 minutes listening to this track over and over, picturing a music video, every intricate detail was running through my head. The colours, the depth of field, the characters, the lighting, and more importantly the story.
We live in an ever demanding time. We work more and earn less, our everyday essentials keep rising in price and we are under more and more pressure to deliver targets, exceed expectations in and out of the work environment. So what makes someone quit?
I can’t stress enough that I have quit jobs in the past due to poor leadership and unwillingness to adapt. I have worked with companies that refuse to adopt new processes or technology due to up front costs, infrastructure issues, and being unsupportive in the roles that you are hired to fulfil.
A good manager can turn any mundane task into an exciting and fulfilling experience. When your manager is constantly hounding at you demanding results without any form of gratification for the hours you are putting in after work, on weekends, and in the mornings before you’ve even had breakfast, it can really take its toll on you and push any confidence you have in your abilities out the door.
Supporting your staff is crucial! I’ve worked with hundreds of people who feel underappreciated and treated like dirt. So much that they refuse to work overtime ever again because a simple thank you was never received for putting in the extra hours over busy periods which resulted in no monetary compensation. A manager must support their staff and praise them for everything they do right. Why treat your staff like a disposable object? The more you disrespect your workforce the sooner you’ll panic when you turn up and they’re gone. A great mentor and line manager I once had taught me an important lesson in life. You have to manage people into the job, not out of it. People are prone to making mistakes and no one is perfect. Spotting an error and then lashing out as if it has destroyed a business is not going to work, a solution would be to approach your staff an mention politely that you spotted an error while reviewing work and make notes of how it can be improved, or in some cases, if that manager is trained and has a clear vision for this project that hasn’t quite aligned, rather than sit on it and wait over the weekend for it to worsen a situation, they could fix it there and then and mention it on Monday morning.
A manager must support their staff and praise them for everything they do right. Why treat your staff like a disposable object? The more you disrespect your workforce the sooner you’ll panic when you turn up and they’re gone. I once had a great mentor and line manager that taught me an important lesson in life. You have to manage people into a job, not out of it. People are prone to making mistakes and no one is perfect. Spotting an error and then lashing out as if it has destroyed a business is not going to work, a solution would be to approach your staff and mention politely that you spotted an error while reviewing work and make notes of how it can be improved on or, in some cases, if that manager is trained and has a clear vision for this project that hasn’t quite aligned, rather than sit on it and wait over the weekend for it to worsen a situation, they could fix it there and then, then mention it on Monday morning.
Advice – Take it
I have always been an advocate for taking on the opinions and advice of those around you. If you hire someone as an assistant or someone in an influential position whose actions have an effect on how a company performs you should listen. Times change, technology advances, and techniques have to be adapted. Algorithms are constantly adjusted to create a fair and equal internet. So managers, if you’ve hired a specialist in a field or someone to assist you; LISTEN TO THEM! It’s so infuriating to see a manager stuck in their ways and fail to listen to logic because what they’ve achieved so far has kept them afloat. You hire people to improve business, to ease the stress on other workers, and to advance new ideas and techniques.
On your first day, your boss calls you in for an introduction and congratulates you once again on joining the team. Once you’ve gone through all the basics you begin to talk about what the future will hold and what your job will consist of. Here you’ll be promised all sorts of toys and support. Fast forward one week later, you’re stuck with the most basic underperforming equipment and you’re left with no clear direction on what you’re meant to be doing. This sounds extreme and unlikely, right? Guess what? This happened to me! I was in a job for almost two years without my own computer or desk to call my own. Now, I do not wish to cry foul about this manager. He was, in fact, a very good managing director who gave extremely good advice and guided me in a business sector I was unfamiliar with, the only issue is he didn’t understand the role he hired me for and finances were not entirely under his control. The thought of spending £1000 on a camera for filming projects was out of the question in the eyes of the finance department, so this caused me so many issues. Self-funding my own job became the norm and thus became a financial drain on myself in a very underpaid position.
So what did I do? I spent months searching for a new job which suited my skill set and desired wage. Throughout this time I was the black swan at work. The business model was dying, the staff didn’t understand social media, and there was an overwhelming resistance to change and adopting these platforms. It wasn’t until I found my current job that as soon as I met the owners I took the job on the spot once we agreed on a wage.
Are You Suffering From Bad Management?
Want some advice? If you’re being treated like dirt and you don’t feel appreciated all I can stress is that you speak out and explain how you’re feeling to your manager. If your manager truly has your best interest at heart (which he should as your performance affects his profits) he/she will take action and try to resolve the issues. If nothing improves within a few weeks my advice would be to walk out and quit. You are a qualified hard working individual who comes to work every day to make a difference.
I can’t express that happiness at work is the utmost importing thing that matters if you’re doing something for a living. Fuck money if it makes you miserable. I would rather get by and be happy than being comfortable and numb. I’ve seen so many people destroyed by misery at work including myself.
How do you look at yourself knowing you’ve become something you dislike? How do you face up to the underlying fact that you weren’t the person you first spoke of, that your kindness deteriorated, your passion and love withered away with each passing moment? Then your own reflection becomes something that you can’t stand.
This is something I’ve been battling with for the past month and further sparked by a heartbreaking and humiliating discovery. I have been a horrible person I was untrusting, stubborn, and aggressive, I also allowed this to completely alter my mood and weight.
My diet plan
Over the past three years my perception of happiness was challenged and altered when I met the person I thought I’d marry, I adapted, I cancelled out, and attempted to shape my life around this person. Doing so resulted in less passion for things I loved doing growing up, changes of careers, investing in a different culture, and even putting on far too much weight in the process.
These changes of circumstance contributed to a decline in happiness.
When I gained weight my mood changed, I felt shit about myself, I felt shit around others and I relayed that onto other people. This was evident by the lack of time I would spend with others, I was rarely seen amongst my friends and when I saw my girlfriend at the time I was lazy, I didn’t want to do anything and I was a complete introvert.
It has taken a break up to smack me in the face. I’m one month into an aggressive diet, I’m riding my bike multiple times a week, and I am losing a lot of weight. I know this is the case as people are complimenting the fact that my physical appearance has changed and is reminiscent of my late teens, I’m becoming muscular and slimmer again.
These positive effects in my physique are also transferring to my mentality. Yes, I’ve had some shit discoveries and news today’s but it hasn’t overly knocked me back. I’m confident, I know I’m not ugly, I’m charming, funny, and generous, I have a lot to give to someone who has as much to give back.
So what is my diet? Well, it’s very extreme. I have been eating a bare minimum. Two bananas for lunch and a small tin of soup for dinner. I top this off with 3L of water a day and it has been a challenge. I have had the odd cheat day where I’ve had a packet of crisps or in the case of Topokki, a small meal. This may be considered excessive, but it is helping me greatly.
Here is a before photo and a current progress shot.
Before starting my diet
Three weeks into my diet, noticeable changes to my physique
Without the people I call friends in my life, I wouldn’t be here. They are truly some of the most remarkable people I’ve met. None of them are perfect and some even have had similar experiences, but they are the reason I’m still smiling and pushing forward. I’m full of self-determination (SD) it has been a driving force and love behind everything I’ve undertaking over this month.
If you are new to this blog I noted in my first post that I now have savings, this is something I have never had. I have a game plan, a passport, a list of destinations I am going to visit and what I want to achieve over the next few years.
Writing and music have become my ultimate pass time. I was never a good writer and I did not do too well at high school in my GCSE’S, in fact, I’d quite honestly say I failed. Grammar and spelling are something that I’ve been battling myself with and challenging myself to understand much further as I’ve got older. If it wasn’t for Kyle Carlson at Vital BMX giving me grammar lessons and pointing out mistakes and teaching me about such things as the Oxford comma this blog would be ten times worse than it is now.
Music is also a strong glue that’s held me together. In the past when I had suffered a serious breakup, I’d retreat to my room and listen to extremely depressing music, but now I listen to positive music, music with a strong message of self-determination, ambitions, and goals. It’s these strongly worded songs that keep positivity at the forefront of my mentality.
I want to leave you with a list of songs I’ve listened too that may seem depressing, but have been driving forces in pursuing my goals.